Quaker deaths are commemorated with a worship service that might be called a celebration of life. It is a time of silent remembrance as well as vocal reflections about the deceased. Friends and acquaintances speak from the silence when led by the Inward Light. There is usually not a directed message from the pastor, only a few words about the person and information about the approach to a Quaker memorial service.
The service may or may not include singing, prayer, instrumental music and readings dependent on the request of the deceased’s family. The selections would generally be followed by a period of silence broken only by the voices of friends and family who feel led to speak about their loved one and friend. It is a time to recall the life that was lived, either silently or vocally.